Spreading The News

So we (and by we I mean Katy) "passed" the pregnancy test.  After we came to our senses, we realized that we were going to have to tell people.  I thought this would be easy, but apparently it is pretty complex....or at least it seems that way when your wife knows half of the universe. 

Then there is the whole "in person" dilemma.  Who must be told in person?  Who can be told over the phone?  Who can be told via text message?  Who can be told on facebook and Twitter?  Is there an order between individual friends, my work, Katy's work, Sunday school class, church friends, grandparents and extended family?   I'm not sure the proper order and personally I don't know that it matters as long as you tell your parents/immediate family.  But there are some people that get offended if someone finds out before them, making them feel less important or something.  Don't spend your time worrying about those people.  Whichever order you decide, with facebook and twitter, you better be ready for the world to know if you tell someone outside of your circle of close friends and family.

It is also complex because of the chance of miscarriage.  We have plenty of friends who have gone through this devastation and unfortunately know it is pretty common.  Our perspective was we had 2 choices: 1) Tell people somewhat early so they can be praying for us throughout the process or 2) Wait a little longer until the chance of miscarriage decreases to avoid having to tell everyone that we had a miscarriage. 

We chose option #1.  We told our closest friends and family between 6-8 weeks and shared it with the world on facebook & Twitter after our first appointment at 10 weeks.  Thinking worst case scenario for a moment, we decided it would be better to tell people and ask for their prayers and if something were to happen, people would know and continue praying for us.  If we went with #2, people would continue to ask, "When are you going to have a baby?" and we would have to either pretend nothing happened and hide our hurt or eventually tell them anyway.  It is a tough decision and one that is different for each family.  I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.

My next post will be about how we told our parents, friends, family, coworkers, and the rest of the world.  Thanks again for your continued prayers for the health of Katy and Baby Bradley. :)