Love is not selfish. Each of these three traits of love have something in common. Boastful people, prideful people, and self-seeking people consistently put themselves before others. This comes out in their words, thoughts, and actions. Their conversations are about them. Their decisions benefit them. Even their good deeds ultimately benefit them as they may expect something in return. Boastful and prideful people are often referred to as cocky, conceited, arrogant, or egotistical.
Love does not boast, is not proud, and is not self-seeking. You cannot fully and truly love someone if you think you are better than them or if you always put your interests ahead of others.
Here are some reflection questions to ask yourself to see if you're self-seeking in a family setting.
1. Does your family always eat where you want to eat?
2. Do you watch whatever you want to watch on TV?
3. Do you vacation wherever you want to vacation?
4. Do you dominate conversations?
5. Do your hobbies and activities take up more of the household budget than other's hobbies?
6. Is your weekend and free time spent doing what you want to do or what others in your family like to do?
7. Do you talk more than you listen?
8. Do you ask your spouses or kids opinion on decisions that affect the whole family?
9. Do you think your side of the family is better than your spouses side of the family?
If you answered yes to 3 or more of these little issues, chances are they will or maybe already have become a bigger issue. Love doesn't do any of these things because love doesn't boast, isn't prideful, and isn't self-seeking.
Love never fails...we do. We have to stop giving love a bad name and start fully loving our families and others.
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